During my last appointment, she asked me if I would be interested in changing my appointment times to earlier in the day.
I didn't want to hurt her feelings or inconvenience her, but the time she suggested really wasn't convenient. I stumbled around, trying to explain why it wouldn't work.
Finally, mercifully, she stopped me. "It doesn't sound like you want to change your appointment time at all," she said.
I nodded that this was true.
Her next words floored me, "Deb, you don't have to make excuses or explain what you need. It's fine to just say, 'I don't want that.'"
"I don't want that." I repeated the words softly, then a little louder. Saying them felt a hundred times better than the mealy-mouthed excuses I'd been trying to give.